For first time mommies, the decision to stay at home or to go out to work is a personal battle. Many of us work because we have to. Depending on where you live, you need two incomes to survive.
This is also a controversial issue among women. Some stay-at-home moms think that it is the biggest sin to let another person other than the parent to take care of their children, while others felt unappreciated. On the other hand, working moms feel guilty because they could not care for their child.
The worst thing is that stay-at-home moms and working moms are at odds with each other about this issue. It is already hard being a woman and a mother, we do not need to fight with one another. We should understand why some women stay at home and some go out to work.
In the most recent issue of Parenting magazine, there was a poll asking readers if they think it is okay for stay at home moms to have a full time nanny or use daycare. 57% say Yes and 43% say No.
Below are 2 comments of those who said no:
- If you're responsible enough to have children, you should take care of them. Kids aren't for show and they shouldn't be passed off to a stranger just because you don't feel like taking care of them.
- Unless a mom is only using hourly daycare for things like taking college classes or to work from home, it's selfish, lazy, and a waste of money.
OUCH!
This is an example of why I say women are their own worst enemy.
Being a stay-at-home mom of babies and young children is not easy. I think it is one of the most difficult job. I had a glimpse of what it is like during my 12 week maternity leave. Aside from being a mother, we are also human and spending a few hours a week doing something for ourselves is no crime.
If the mother is happier, she can be a better mother and the children will be happier.